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Q. Recently my daughter-in-law left her family—my son and their three little boys. My son called me right away and I flew across the country to help him with the boys. She’s back home now, but is facing some painful abuse from her past with the help of a therapist and is on a heavy dose of anti-depressants. She seems very distracted from her responsibilities. I’ve stayed on to help out, but how can I help without helping too much? Where do I draw the line? I was a stay-at-home mom and I am afraid I will take on too much responsibility, but the children, all under age six, need attention. SA
A. Bless your heart for being willing to help out during this family crisis. As to how to draw the line, I believe the secret lies in maintaining your own mental health. You need to give, but you also must reserve some time and energy for yourself so you do not become overwhelmed. To do this, I encourage you to develop a life outside the four walls of your son and daughter-in-law’s home, even if you are only with them for a short season. One way to start is by finding a good church in the area, and taking time to get involved, even if it means taking your grandchildren with you. By involved, I mean attending Sunday services, and maybe joining a small group Bible study, not serving in any capacity. Right now your service is to your family, so find a place where the music, teaching and presence of God feed your soul, not a place that needs your help. Read the rest of this entry »
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